The Dance of Anger

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Jay Shetty references Harriet Lerner's The Dance of Anger to explain how over-functioning in families becomes a self-reinforcing cycle—the more you take on, the more others expect you to keep handling. He presents it as research-backed insight into a common family dynamic pattern.

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The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships and personal growth. Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel—and certainly our anger is no exception. "Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr.

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  Jay Shetty💬 Mentioned

  …examining family dynamics and patterns of over-functioning in relationships

  “Research by psychologist Harriet Lerner, specifically her groundbreaking work in The Dance of Anger, shows that the pattern of over-functioning in families is almost always a self-reinforcing loop. The more you manage, the more you're expected to manage.”

  On Purpose with Jay Shetty — Stop Saying Yes When You Want to Say No (Use This Simple Daily Practice to Set Boundaries Without Guilt)at 08:35

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