The Courage to Be Disliked
by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga
Mentioned 2 times across 2 shows · first heard Nov 2025 on My First Million.
The general take
Jay Shetty sees The Courage to Be Disliked as a confrontational book that challenges people's fear of judgment, arguing that this fear is destroying their authentic selves. He thinks it provokes anger initially but ultimately leads to freedom by attacking the core identity many people have built around seeking approval.
Who said what
Jay Shetty👍 Recommends
…applying Alfred Adler's psychology to separate tasks and liberation from seeking approval
“Book number four is The Courage to be Disliked. Here's the lesson. You're not living your life. You're living your fear of other people's judgment and it has cost you everything authentic about you. This is the book that makes you angry first and feel free second. Because its central argument attacks the one thing most of us have built our entire identity around.”
On Purpose with Jay Shetty — 10 Books That Changed My Lifeat 11:48
Andrew Wilkinson👍 Recommends
…discussing how to overcome the desire to be liked by everyone and have the courage to be disliked
“And in January I found this book called the courage to be disliked. And it's really interesting. It's written in this very odd way where it's a dialogue between like this wise old man and a young guy. And the core idea is just like seeking recognition is a trap. It's impossible to make everybody happy. And if you try, you're going to end up living somebody else's life. And so you have to be hated. You have to have the courage to be disliked.”
My First Million — I Ranked the Best & WORST Businesses to Start Before 2026 | Andrew Wilkinsonat 57:18
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