The All or Nothing Marriage
by Eli Finkel
Mentioned once across 1 show · first heard Mar 2026 on On Purpose with Jay Shetty.
The general take
Logan Ury mentions Eli Finkel's "The All or Nothing Marriage" as a book from one of her mentors that explores how relationships change at different times. Based on the brief mention, she appears to value it as a useful resource, though the conversation doesn't dive into specific details about its argument or approach.
About
“After years of debate and inquiry, the key to a great marriage remained shrouded in mystery. Until now...”—Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success Eli J. Finkel's insightful and ground-breaking investigation of marriage clearly shows that the best marriages today are better than the best marriages of earlier eras. Indeed, they are the best marriages the world has ever known. He presents his findings here for the first time in this lucid, inspiring guide to modern marital bliss. The All-or-Nothing Marriage reverse engineers fulfilling marriages—from the “traditional” to the utterly nontraditional—and shows how any marriage can be better. The primary function of marriage from 1620 to 1850 was food, shelter, and protection from violence; from 1850 to 1965, the purpose revolved around love and companionship.
Who said what
“one of my mentors, Eli Finkel, he has this great book called The All or Nothing Marriage. And he talks about different times in a relationship.”
On Purpose with Jay Shetty — Logan Ury: #1 Dating Mistake That Leads to the Wrong Relationship (Use THIS Compatibility Test Before You Get Attached)at 33:56
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